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Incivility is reason I’m leaving council: Anne Einhorn

Posted 5/24/17

I have tried over the last four years to be respectful of my constituents and my colleagues.

I have restrained myself from commenting on many posts and Facebook discussions that I found …

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Incivility is reason I’m leaving council: Anne Einhorn

council chambers december 2016
council chambers december 2016
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I have tried over the last four years to be respectful of my constituents and my colleagues.

I have restrained myself from commenting on many posts and Facebook discussions that I found upsetting. I have tried to do my job without prejudice, with prudence, and with patience. But today, I am compelled by the debacle of last Wednesday’s meeting to speak publicly.

I do not hold myself above the fray. I am as guilty as anyone else of pettiness, impatience, incivility and anger. I will say now that what the public saw that night is why I am not running again ... why I will no longer accept a spot on the ballot or serve if I were to be written in.

The comments of the public who so rightly chastised us that night demonstrate again who we work for and who we are answerable to every single day. Not to each other, not to ourselves, not to other politicians, friends or relatives, but to those people who voted for us. Those of you we represent are the ones with the power but with that comes responsibility, and you abuse that when you attack individuals on a personal level.

If the public and the public servants would stick to the actual issues and not use words and language to destroy the messengers, we would all be better off. I attempted to say this Wednesday night as I am a peacemaker by nature but I’m not really sure anyone was listening.

I don’t believe anyone on our current council is a crook, unpatriotic, power hungry or greedy. So we, council and public, should stop indicating things about each other that fuel the feuds, innuendos and personal agendas that we all foster at one point or another in our lives. This is not the time or place for this.

I have been personally attacked, I’ve been called out at meetings and on Facebook. I’ve been questioned and accused, but I choose with a few exceptions to let it go. I’ve defended myself and I have been angry in public as we all can but I have let it go. I have tried to represent myself to my constituents and against my detractors without personal attacks in retaliation.

I will not call out my enemies or detractors but I won’t be surprised to see them call me out in response to this. I’m not perfect and I don’t consider myself better than anyone one else. I believe in many respects that my council colleagues as a rule are more informed about many things than am I but here is what I know and how I try to live my life:

Sometimes it’s better to be kind than to be right.

Sometimes it’s better to let others defend you than to defend yourself.

Sometimes it’s better to hold your head up and not answer petty accusations.

Most of the time it’s best to let others judge you by your actions because we are accountable for what we do and what we say and once it’s done ... the time for excuses is over.

Sometimes, though, you must speak out. Today was my time for that. I will continue to work with my colleagues and for my constituents for the remainder of my term. I will continue to avoid arguments of a personal nature. I will continue to be a peacemaker and a voice of reason, but don’t mistake my silence for a lack of interest or concern. It is simply my way to do my job quietly and hopefully in the best interests of the town.

Anne Einhorn is a member of the Middletown Borough Council.